Feb 2

Comforting a Friend in Grief: What to Say After the Loss of a Loved One

Admin John Hossack

Losing a loved one is one of life’s most challenging experiences, and offering comfort to a friend who is grieving can be difficult. Knowing what to say to show your support and sympathy is important. Hossack Funeral Services, with its compassionate approach to funeral services, provides guidance on how to comfort a friend after the loss of a loved one. This article offers advice on what to say and how to provide support during this difficult time.

1. Expressing Your Condolences

A simple “I’m sorry for your loss” can be very powerful. It acknowledges the loss and shows that you care. Avoid trying to find the ‘right’ words; often, the simplest expressions of sympathy are the most effective.

2. Share Fond Memories

If you knew the deceased, sharing a positive memory can be comforting. It shows that their loved one’s life had a lasting impact and will be remembered.

3. Offer Specific Help

Instead of the general “Let me know if you need anything,” offer specific forms of assistance. This could be running errands, bringing meals, or helping with funeral arrangements. Specific offers of help are more likely to be accepted.

4. Listen and Be Present

Sometimes, the best thing you can do is listen. Allow your friend to talk about their feelings and memories of their loved one. Being a good listener shows that you are there for them.

5. Avoid Clichés

Steer clear of clichés like “They’re in a better place now” or “Time heals all wounds.” These phrases, though well-intentioned, can minimise the person’s grief.

6. Follow Up

Grief doesn’t end after the funeral. Check-in on your friend in the weeks and months after their loss. Continued support is often needed and appreciated as they adjust to their new reality.

7. Respect Their Grieving Process

Everyone grieves differently. Respect your friend’s grieving process and give them the space and time they need. Be there for them, but don’t push them to move on or heal before they are ready.

8. Suggest Professional Help if Needed

If you are concerned about your friend’s well-being, gently suggest professional help. Sometimes, talking to a counsellor or joining a support group can be beneficial.


Offering comfort to a friend who is grieving the loss of a loved one is about being present, listening, and showing that you care. Hossack Funeral Services understands the importance of support during these times and is always here to offer guidance.